Today, we will cover the other side of the equation: what if you partner of a family member has this problem?
If you feel the need, or feel you have the obligation, to look after someone who is depressed, it can be challenging.You will often feel frustrated and might have trouble even concealing moments of anger. However, it will help you to try and understand what the person is going through.
Many people with this issue feel ashamed of their condition and will go to great lengths to hide it. However, as with a disease, ignoring the problem does not make it go away. It simply grows and becomes worse. Eventually, it reaches the point where serious problems can occur. If it feels like your loved one is not being honest, they are probably not doing it to spite you.
Remember that depression can also impact people physically. You may feel that if the person just got up and out there, their mood would brighten. However, imagine a combination of feeling sad and having no energy whatsoever. That will give you some idea of what your loved one is experiencing.
It’s important to empathize with people in this situation, but don’t forget to also take care of yourself. Keep doing the things you enjoy and that give you fulfillment. People suffering from depression need therapy; you can provide assistance and support, but ultimately, it is not your sole task to make them better. If your compromise your own life to the point where it leaves you feeling sad, then you definitely won’t be of help and will not be able to meet your own goals and obligations.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, there are support groups available for people in your position. Contact your local mental health association for information.